Principles of Sufism

The Shaykh Ash-Sha’rani may Allah be pleased with him said, “From the affair of the seeker is that he should be totally devoted to the remembrance of Allah in all his time. He does not answer to anyone who turns him from it (DIvine Remembrance) to other than it except if it is something required by the Sacred Law. This is so because the spiritual path does not accept any form of association (shirkah) along with it. 

Each person who does not give his all to the path, will not receive even a part of it. The seeker has to attach himself to the remembrance of Allah  until he achieves continous presence with Allah. At this point witnessing with the heart has sufficed him from remembrance with the tongue. As long as he has not achieved continuous presence, he is commanded to remembrance with the tongue. 

Humility – Ustadh Usama Canon

بسْم الله الرّحْمن الرحيْم
اللّهمّ صلّ على سيدّنا و حبيْبنا وشفيْعنا رسوْل الله محمّد ابْن عبْد الله و آله و صحْبه و سلّم

The following is a summary of the lecture delivered by Al-Faadhil Ustadh Usama Canon in Al-Falah Mosque on the night of 21 February 2011 after the Maghrib Prayers. I would like to apologize for any inaccuracies or inconsistencies. May we benefit from this, Amin.

Whenever a person feels a sense of pride or arrogance in his/her heart for any quality that he/she possess be it beauty or intelligence, the person should remember that the Messenger of Allah صلى الله عليه و سلم has greater right/claim to that trait (beauty, intellgence etc.) and yet he was the most humble of mankind. In a narration, the Messenger of Allah s.a.w. entered a market with some coins in his possession whereupon he saw a servant-girl crying by the side of the path. The Messenger of Mercy s.a.w. out of concern, asked the girl why she was crying. The girl told him s.a.w. that she had lost the money that was given by her master to buy some provisions. The Messenger of Allah s.a.w. comforted her and offered her his money. She took it and the Messenger s.a.w. went his way. Later, the Messenger of Allah s.a.w. passed by the same area and saw the girl again, crying again. He s.a.w. again asked her and she said that she was already behind time and was supposed to return earlier to her master. She then requested the Messenger of Allah s.a.w. to accompany her back home and intercede on her behalf. He s.a.w. agreed (SubhanAllah! the Messenger of Allah s.a.w., an important man with so many concerns and responsibilities upon his noble back, could spare his time to fulfill the need of a simple servant, this is the peak of humility indeed!)

So the Messenger of Allah s.a.w. arrived at the doorstep of the house and greeted with Salaams. The first and second of which was answered by silence. Upon the third greeting did the inhabitants of the house return the greetings. The Messenger of Allah s.a.w. asked the reason for their delay in returning the greeting and they said that they knew he s.a.w. would often greet three times and therefore wanted to hear his voice thrice before returning the greeting. The Messenger of Allah s.a.w. then interceded for the servant girl and she was not only pardoned but was granted her freedom as well! The Messenger of Allah s.a.w. was active in helping out solve the daily problems of the society.

The deeper significance of humility is found in the hadith in which the Prophet s.a.w. said that “No one humbles himself before Allah but that He raises him.” (Al-Kashani 186). It is related that Hasan al-Basri r.a. whose very presence in the market would cause people around him to weep (due to his spiritual state), one day saw a man who was walking all puffed up with pride and arrogance. He approached the man and told him, “I know you!”, upon which the man replied, “You don’t know me.” Hasan al-Basri said again, “I know you!” The man gave the same reply. Upon which Hasan al-Basri r.a. said, “I know you! Your beginning is despised water (semen), your end is a stinking corpse and in between you have a belly full of waste.” The man was left astounded and repented.

The one who is conscious of his/her humility is not safe (from pride), the one who is conscious of Allah is safe...

Allah ta’ala call upon us to reflect upon everything around us, in Surah Al-Waq’iah He Exalted is He mentioned, “Is it ye who create it, or are We the Creators?” (56:59). Allah uses the “We” to emphasize the Greatness, Magnitude of His Creative Power. (His Names are Plural therefore We is used, but He is One, He is referring here to the effect/reflection of His Name the Creator).
“And ye certainly know already the first form of creation: why then do ye not celebrate His praises? See ye the seed that ye sow in the ground? Is it ye that cause it to grow, or are We the Cause?” (56:62-64)

The vegetables we get from the supermarket, do we take time to reflect upon its true origin? We usually stop before we finally think of Allah as the ultimate source…“See ye the water which ye drink?” Do ye bring it down (in rain) from the cloud or do We? (56:68-69) The water which we used to take wudhu’ earlier…do we stop to reflect upon Allah Who ceaselessly sends it down just for us? In a hadith, it is stated that as it nears the end of time, the heavens will retain a third of its water and the earth would retain a third of its growth, then two thirds and finally both heavens and earth would retain all of them and at that time the sustenance of the believer would be his/her tasbih, SubhanaAllah walHamdu Lillah wa Laailaaha IllaAllahu Allahu Akbar! We really hope we wouldn’t see that day.

In the same surah, Surah al-Waqi’ah, Allah ta’ala mentioned three categories of people, the Ashaabul Yamiin (companions of the Right), Ashaabul Shimaal (Companions of the Left) and the Muqarrabuun (Those who are brought Near). One day, ‘Abdullah Ibn Mas’ud heard a man express his desire to be among the Muqarrabuun. Upon which Abdullah ibn Masu’d (whom was among the close companions and a servant of the Prophet s.a.w.) said to that man, “You are looking at a man (referring to himself) who wouldn’t want to be resurrected (on the Day of Rising) at all!” Thus did the Messenger of Allah s.a.w. instill humility and taqwa in the hearts of his Companions! Sayyidina Abu Bakr r.a. on the other hand one day said to a small bird which landed on a twig near him, “O if only I could be as you, with nothing to account for before the Lord of the Worlds!” Such is the humility of Our Master Abu Bakr As-Siddiq, the one whom was said to have faith equal to none!

For one to develop humility, one should reflect upon his/her state. There are as many as 24,000 people in the world today that die of hunger everyday and 50% of the world population do not have enough water to drink. A practical advice, with regards to worldly affairs, one should always look upon those whom are less fortunate. This helps to cultivate humility and gratitude towards the favour one has been given. The worse type of arrogance is being proud of one’s religiosity, nau’zhubillahiminzaalik. One day a seeker of knowledge in Yemen walked along the streets, fully dressed, beautifully, with his shawl, turban and clean impeccable set of robes. The student passed by a man carrying a cart full of waste upon his shoulder and a thought of disgust occured in the mind of this student. The man turned to him and said, “Verily! this is nothing compared to that thought you harbor in your mind!” Let us reflect, what would it be like if whatever we harbor in our hearts, the sins, the evil and despicable thoughts are made manifest upon our faces. People would say, “Dude what did you do last night?!” and all sorts of questions will arise. The solution to dispel pride in one’s religiosity is to look upon those whom are better in their Religious duties. Those whom are more pious among us and also the stories of pious people we read in books etc. Thus do we measure ourselves, where do we stand.

To be continued InshaAllah, keep me in your Du’as 🙂

The Path is Simple – Feat. Shaykh Mahy Cisse

Alhamdulillah, praise be to God, we are very happy to be here with our brothers and sisters gathering for the sake of Allah, gathering to remind people of the religion i.e. Islam, “Verily the Din by Allah is Islam”. All the solutions we have it inside qur’an and sunnah of Muhammad s.a.w. every time for everybody, for all the situations, Qur’an is the ruh(spirit), “..wa kazalika awhaina ilaika ruhan min amrina ma kunta tadri mal-kitaab, wala al-eeman…” ila akhir ayat. So without Qur’an we don’t have a ruh, w/o quran we don’t have a light. And the light of Qur’an is Prophet Muhammad s.a.w.. They asked ‘Aisyah r.a., “How was Rasulullah s.a.w.?” She replied,”His manners was the Qur’an (Kaana Khuluquhul Quraan).”

The Messenger of Allah s.a.w. said, “I left among you that which if you hold on to them you won’t go astray, the book of Allah and my sunnah,” …So what we need is to follow the Prophet Muhammad s.a.w.. Islam is a religion of mercy (rahmah), mercy for everybody, Allah ta’ala told Prophet Muhammad s.a.w. “We did not send you save as mercy to the worlds”. He was not a mercy during the time he was sent only but all the time. The worlds or ‘aalamin’ is everything other than Allah s.w.t.. So the mercy of the worlds, all the alam is Prophet Muhammad s.a.w.. So we have to try know him, love him and follow his footsteps because Allah said, “If you love Allah, follow me and Allah will love you…” (ila akhir ayah). If Allah loves you for sure He will guide you. There is no faith or iman without love.The Messenger of Allah s.a.w. said, “None of you fully believes until I become more beloved to him than his children, parents and all mankind,” Sayidina ‘Umar r.a. said, “O Rasulullah! you are more beloved to me than everything except myself”
The Messenger of Allah then replied, “Your faith is not complete until I become more beloved unto you than yourself.”
The Saidina ‘Umar r.a. said,”Now Rasulullah, I love you better than myself.” The Messenger of Allah replied, “Now ‘Umar you are a believer,”

We have to love the Messenger s.a.w. more than ourselves because he s.a.w. loves us better than we love ourselves. No way we can be saved until we reach this level in our love for him. We have to love our fellow muslims as well, in a hadith it is related that one will not fully believe until he loves for his brother what he loves for himself. In another hadith it is related that one will not enter Paradise until one believes(have faith), one will not believe until one loves for his brother what he loves for himself. Islam is a religion of good morals/manners. The Prophet s.a.w. said, “Allah sent me to complete the good morals”. Allah praised his morals,”Verily, you (O Muhammad) are upon exalted character”. He also praised his tongue, “You do not speak from selfish desire…”, He praised his knowledge,”We taught you that which you do not knew…”, He praised his vision,” ..his vision did not swerve…” He praised his heart,” the heart did not deceived what it saw…”. Allah taught us how to respect the Prophet s.a.w. He never called him the way he called other Prophets peace be upon them. Al other Prophets were addressed by their names(Ya Nuh, Ya Musa…etc.) but everytime Allah mentioned Prophet Muhammad s.a.w. he mentioned Prophethood with his name. This He mentioned 4 times in the Qur’an. Those among the disbelievers whom called Prophet Muhammad, ‘O Muhammad!” Allah mentioned them as mentally lacking (laa ya’qiluun) to teach us respect.

The Messenger of Allah was an example for us “There is in the Messenger of Allah a fine example, for those who believes in meeting Allah and the Last Day and remember/mention Allah much…“. He is an example for everybody but not everybody can follow him, if you want to make it easy for yourself to follow his footsteps you have to listen to this ayat,(Laqad kaana lakum fi Rasulillahi uswatun hasanah li man kaana yarjullah...(ila akhir ayat)) for people who believe in meeting Allah and the last day and you have to mention Allah alot. So if you mention Allah alot that will help you to follow Prophet Muhammad s.a.w. It’s like Qura’n being a guidance for everybody but not everybody follow its guidance. Allah says in the beginning of the kitaab, “Alif Laam Miim dzalikal kitaabu laa-raibafeehi hudali-lmutaqeen…”, It is guidance for people who fear Allah. In another ayat He said, “Wa hudalinn-Naasi wa bayyinatim-minal Huda wal Furqaan…” So it is guidance for everybody but not everybody reach to that level whereby they can follow it. If you want to follow it you have to be among the muttaqeen i.e. the people who fear Allah ta’ala. Taqwa means to obey the orders and stop when Allah says stop.

Islam is deenul hurriyah, freedom to believe whatever “laaikraahafiddiin qad tabayyana Rushdu minal ghayy...” there is no compulsion in religion, truth has become manifest from error. Allah has shown the two ways. Islam is the religion of karam (honour), “We have indeed honoured Sons of Adam…” in this ayat we learn to honour/respect all sons of Adam not only Muslims. Allah carried them in the seas and lands, gave them sustenance and exalting them above most creation. Once the Prophet s.a.w. was sitting he saw a bier pass by and he stood up as a show of respect. When his companions told him that it was a bier of a Jew, he s.a.w. said, “Is it not a soul?” He did this to teach them respect for all souls. You can therefore deny that Islam is an intolerant religion, Islam is a religion of mercy, which accepts differences as a sign of Allah’s power. “Wa law shaa-a-rabbuka la aamana man fil ardhi jami’aa, Afa anta tukrihunnaas hatta yakunu mu’mineen…” Have your Lord wished all of mankind would have believed in him, do you force people to have faith?…

The Prophet s.a.w. said, “All the creation they are the family of Allah (we know Allah do not have a family), the best of them (is the one who is) the more beneficial to them.” Even though we are different in colour, tribes, race etc. the kalimatul haqq brings us together i.e. Laa ilaaha illa Allah…Islam is advice to be kind with everybody, Prophet s.a.w. said “Man laa yarhamu la yurhamu”, “irhamu man fil ardhi yarhamkum man fis samaa’.” If you don’t show mercy to people Allah won’t have mercy for you. Islam is a religion of tolerance, if you go to Jerusalem you will see the Mosque of ‘Umar which is situated next to a church. Sayyidna ‘Umar was talking to the christians in the church when the call for prayer came, they told Sayidina Umar that he could pray in the church since it is the house of God too. He said that he knows but he would rather go outside to pray since he did not want the other muslims to come in and occupy the space. islam gave others the freedom to worship their way. The solution to the problem of this age is to follow the way of the Friends of Allah and the soliheen and to love them because “al-mar’u ma’a man ahaab”. A person is with whom he loves, even if the person loved is of a higher station.

The best way is dzikrullah ala bizikrillahi tatmainulqulub i.e. Verily, the heart finds rest in remembrance of Allah. If you do not remember Allah day and night you won’t find rest no matter how much money you have. Whenever you mention Allah, He mentions you, Fadzkuruni adzkurkum washkuruli walaa takfuruun, you see the difference between the ummah of Muhammad s.a.w. and the ummah of Musa a.s.. Allah told the ummah of Musa, “Fazkuru ni’matiyal lati an’amtu ‘alaikum, wa anni fadhaltukum ‘alal ‘aalameen..” Mention my Gifts..but ummah Muhammd Allah ask them to mention Himself. That is a very great difference. You see the differences between Muhammad s.a.w. and Ibraheem a.s.. Sayidina Ibraheem said, “Inni dzaahibuun ilaa Rabbi sayahdeen…”, I’m going to my Lord who will guide me…But Sayidina Muhammad was taken by His Lord, he did not have to go… (Isra’ wa Mi’raj verse).

If you see the creation and you didn’t ‘see’ Allah before or after or while you see the creation, you have no light said Ibn Atho’illah. The dzikrullah is the key to the way, the best of dzikr is Laa ilaaha illa Allah, the best dua’ is istighfar, the solaatu ‘alan nabi (tasliya) would guide you to the right path. Even the shaykhs would say, “If you don’t have guidance, and you keep making tasliya, it can be your guidance.” You find this in the Qura’n, “Huwalladzi yusolliya ‘alaikum wa malaaikatahu liyukhrijakum minazulumaati ilannuur…” Whenver Allah sned blessings/prayer/solawat to you, it will take you from darkness to light, and it is related(in a hadith) that when you make one solawat/tasliya upon the Prophet s.a.w. Allah sends ten solawat to you. When you send hundred, He exalted is He sends thousand to you and so on and so forth…When you send a thousand, Prophet s.a.w. said you go to paradise with him shoulder to shoulder.

To listen to the rest of the lecture please access the link below (log in using the same account given in earlier posts)
The shaykh goes deeper into the issues of the path, the 3 sub levels of islam, iman and ihsan in the later parts of the lecture www.dropbox.com

Shaykh Mahy Cisse – On the Path

Bismillahir Rahmaanir Raheem, Allahuma solli wa sallim wa baarik ‘ala Sayyidina Muhammadin wa ‘ala aalihi wa sohbihi ajma’in.
The following is an audio recording of Shaykh’s lecture at Tradisi Halaqah on Friday Night before the conference on Saturday, it’s a short lecture so enjoy =)… Do stay tuned for a transcript of the Shaykh’s lecture and more audio recordings from the Sacred Path of Love Conference featuring Habib Hassan Al-‘Atthas Ba’alawie and Dr. Afifi Al-Akiti
Please click on the link below to access the file…(Username: tazkiahwatazkirah@hotmail.com, password: tazkiah*h3)
Tariqa Muhammadiyyah

Indeed a very down-to-earth man, like most gnostics or ‘arifiin-billah very much given to silence. May we benefit from his knowledge, wisdom and barakah.

Moulding Our Children Pt. 3 – Habib ‘Umar Bin Hafiz hafizahullah

Bismillahi wal Alhamdulillahi wa solatu was salaamu ‘ala Rasulillah

…In the battle of ‘Uhud, a lady from the family of ‘Amr manifested her excellent upbringing, her husband, and her father was both participating in that battle. Her father whom was already in his eighties and could hardly walked properly was told to reamin at home but he replied promptly, “Oh you would rather enter paradise and leave me behind? No, I shall follow.” When the battle was at its peak, Hind’ the aforementioned lady whom was the daughter of this old man ‘Amr saw an arrow headed towards the Messenger of Allah s.a.w.. She immediately went forward to shield the Messenger. During the battle, her husband , father, son and brother were martyred.

Their bodies were then brought to Medina after the battle to be buried. When the battle ended, the womenfolk including the mother of the lady went forth from their homes to welcome the Messenger of Allah s.a.w.. We well know that the battle saw many martyrs among the close companions of the Messenger of Allah s.a.w.. The infidels had spread false rumors about the death of the Messenger s.a.w.. The womenfolk went forth with tears in their eyes. The mother of the lady sat her camel and asked for news of the battle. Upon hearing the news that the Messenger of Allah was fine and unharmed, she said, “Any calamity is insignificant to me since the Messenger is well and fine.”

When she made a move to return, her camel did not budge towards Medina. But when directed towards the battle ground of ‘Uhud it was eager to move. Again she directed it to Medina but it did resisted and again she directed it towards ‘Uhud and it was as eager to move to meet the Messenger of Allah s.a.w.. The story was related to the Messenger of Allah s.a.w. who then said to the lady (wife of ‘Amr), “Did your husband ‘Amr said anything before leaving for battle?”
“Yes, Messenger of Allah, he made a supplication saying, ‘Ya Allah do not make me return home humiliated and grant me the honour of martyrdom in your way!'” replied the lady.
The Messenger of Allah then said, “That was the blessing of ‘Amr’s dua’, O men of Ansar!, verily Allah have servants whom when they make supplication, it is answered immediately among them is ‘Amr.”
When ‘Amr was about to be laid to rest, the Messenger of Allah s.a.w. said to Hindun (wife of ‘Amr), “Know ye Hindun that your husband, children and brother are in the same place in the Heaven of Allah s.w.t.” She promptly replied, “Dua’ for me so that I may be among them, O Messenger of Allah!”

When their burial was completed, the Messenger of Allah s.a.w stood by their graves and bore witness to their martyrdom in the way of Allah and that no one sends blessings to them but that they hear it until the Day of Judgement.
After the battle, whatever that happened happened among the companions and some of them requested the Messenger of Allah s.a.w to ask for the destruction of the infidels but the Messenger of Allah s.a.w. instead supplicated, “Ya Allah grant them guidance for they do not know that I am your Messenger”

The third most important influence upon our children is their companionship for the Messenger s.a.w. mentioned that a person is upon the religion of his close companion (his character, inclinations are influenced by his/her companionship etc.). Our duty as parents, we are obligated to choose decent friends for our children as a person’s mannerisms can be reflected upon another. We have to cultivate them early to sit among scholars of the religion for their future well-being. However if we’re negligent, and we let them sit among indecent company, theirs will be an indecent, despicable future. Isn’t wondrous that we pay attention to the upbringing of our children for a pious son or daughter becomes a source of good for their deceased parents whom benefit from their acts of piety. The following is a story from which we can learn a beautiful lesson.

A pious man saw in his dream a group of people whom were given some servings of food. These people rushed towards the food to grab for themselves except for a man who remained in his spot. The dreamer asked the man why he didn’t take the food and why the rest were rushing for them. Upon which he answered, “They are actually grabbing the rewards from the recitations that were sent forth from the living muslims.”

“Why then do you not grab these blessings/rewards?” asked the dreamer. “Oh, I’m not really in need of the rewards as I have a son who actually completes reciting the Quran daily and pray for its rewards to be given to me, thus I have sufficient blessings from that.” The dreamer then asked about this son of his and was told that he actually runs a bookstore in a particular marketplace. The dreamer upon waking up, took off to look for this person in the marketplace, he inquired to the locals about such a person and was directed to the bookstore. He made careful observation of the man and noticed that after he had served his customers, his lips would not cease to recite the verse of the Holy Qur’an. He appeared to be among those whom memorize the Qur’an. (Habib ‘Umar commented that this man has one store but gains the profit of two stores, the other in the hereafter). This is an example of excellent upbringing. When the dreamer then tried to have a conversation with the man he said, “Don’t get me into much talk, if you have any need (from my shop) please go ahead and purchase.”

“Why are you lips busy, (what are you reciting)?” the dreamer pretend to ask. “Why do you ask?” replied the bookstore owner. The man then went on to relate about his dream where he met the father of owner of the bookstore. Upon relating the whole story, the bookstore keeper cried and said, “It is true I complete the Quran everyday and sent its rewards to my father”. After several years, the pious man had a similar dream but this time the father of the bookstore keeper was seen grabbing for food among the rest. The man then asked the reason for the change upon which he was told that the son had just passed away. Upon waking up he checked with the locals and found that it was true, the bookstore keeper had just passed away. If parents succeed in producing children who both memorize and practice the Quran, they will be granted a crown of light in the Day of Judgment whose light outshines even the Sun. If such an honour and bounty is given to the parents surely, the child who achieved will definitely be given nothing less. Let us then make a good intention in this blessed place and occasion. It is said that one good intention opens up seventy doors of blessings and goodness. There were many children whom became pious individuals due to their parents’ pure intentions made in the mosques.

We have stated five elements that are influential to the development of children, namely, hearing, sight, companionship, proper education and sitting among the religious scholars i.e. the ulama’. Let us intend to pay attention to these five aspects in order to produce pious offspirings. We ask Allah to be gathered with our wives and children in His Heaven. Let us leave this place with a renewed drive to correct our children and to correct the Muslim children. If there are many outside who desire to corrupt our children, then let us step forward to correct the Muslim children. As we began with the testimony of faith now we end with istighfar…

(End of transcript)

May Allah bless us with pious children whom are more pious than us. May Allah cast His veil of Protection on our children and the Ummah, Bless the Ummah, Help the Ummah, Forgive the Ummah, Amin Ya Rabbal ‘Aalamin…

Moulding our children pt.2- al-Habib ‘Umar bin Hafiz hafizahUllah

Bismillahi wal Alhamdulillah wa solatu was salaamu ‘ala Rasulillah, here is a simplified transcript of Habib ‘Umar’s lecture at Alkaff Mosque after Isya’ on the night of 18 October 2010.

….The Messenger of Allah s.a.w. consistently reminded parents to nurture and protect their children in a hadith in which he said, “A father shall be responsible for anything that happens to his family at home. A wife shall be held responsible for her obligations towards her husband.” We are made responsible by Allah to provide halal food for our children and prepare them to live a good life. The greatest of all obligations and that which has a high standing by Allah is to pay careful attention to their faith or iman and their character. Everything that is beneficial for them be it for this world or hereafter, is allowed/can be given/provided for them while paying careful watch over their faith and character development. Blessings shall increase upon us if the jobs that we as workers in the government or private institutions possess taqwa or God-Wariness.

It is related that in Europe that a non-muslim employer called upon his muslim employees during Ramadhan and asked them if they were fasting and said that if they were he shall cut their pay since their productivity would be expected to be lower. Some of them decided to break their fast because of this but a small group declined to give up their obligatory fast. They didn’t mind a pay-cut and told the employer to do as he wish. The non-muslim employer then censured the group whom had decided to give up their fast for betraying the trust of their religion, he fired them as he believed it wouldn’t be possible one day that they betray their own company. While the rest who have preserved the trust of their religion was allowed to stay with no pay-cut at all.

Know that every muslim that obey Allah’s command and is steadfast in them helps to spread Islam to the rest of the world. By disobeying Allah and betraying the trust actually hinders people from entering Islam. Thus we need to reflect upon what we have prepared our children with as they would one day interact with others and work in companies/institutions. The nurturing companions of the Prophet s.a.w. brought their newborn to the Prophet s.a.w. who would feed some dates that he s.a.w. had chewed to the new born. Thus, the first substance that enter the belly of the newborn is a portion from the Prophet’s s.a.w. blessed saliva. While the bigger kids were commanded by their parents (whom were the Prophet’s companions) to visit the Prophet every morning to kiss his blessed hands and get leftovers from his ablution water. Since they were relatively small they could easily walk in and out of the Prophet’s s.a.w. house especially during the time the Prophet return home from the mosque during Duha period. Even before their children could walk they would bring them to the laps of the Prophet Muhammad s.a.w.

Among them (companions) would command their sons to bring a container filled with water every morning to the Prophet Muhammad s.a.w. so that he could put his blessed hands inside the water which then became the family’s drink for that day. Such attention given by the companions made their children great leaders and men of great faith and Allah made this world and the next subservient to them.

During the battle of Uhud, the Prophet made the army stand in a row to see if there were any children and old men to be sent back home. Some sons of the companions out fear of being sent back would stand on their toes to appear tall and able. This (zeal they portray) is a result of the nurturing they received and a fruit of what they heard and saw when they were at home with their parents. At that battle, one of these boys was sent back from battle and came to his father weeping and was asked why replied, “How can I not cry when a friend of mine had his parents came to The Messenger of Allah to request that their son be allowed to fight and the Messenger permitted while I was told to go back, and if I were to wrestle with that boy I would overcome him, why can’t I fight in the battle then? Please request the Messenger to allow me to fight.” In our age now, it is difficult to find such children who would cry if they were left behind for congregational prayer or circles of knowledge but they would cry if they were left out of football matches or films that they love. This is an effect of upbringing. This is the first step, the beginning, what would then happen to them later?

The father in the story narrated earlier than went to meet the Messenger of Allah to seek his permission for the son to fight in the battle. The father added that his son was more capable than his son’s friend whom the Messenger s.a.w. allowed to fight. The Messenger s.a.w. then called for the other boy and told them to wrestle in front of him s.a.w. Indeed the boy whom was told to return proved more capable by subduing his friend. The Messenger s.a.w. then allowed both to fight in the battle. The blessings from an excellent tarbiyah or upbringing were evident in all their families.

to be cont’d Insha’Allah

Moulding our children pt 1- Habib ‘Umar bin Hafiz

Bismillahi wal Alhamdulillah wa solatu was salaamu ‘ala Rasulillah, here is a simplified transcript of Habib ‘Umar’s lecture at Alkaff Mosque after Isya’ on the night of 18 October 2010.

Al-Habib ‘Umar bin Muhammad bin Salim bin Hafiz began by praising Allah Who has granted us a great blessing that is to gather in His House for His Sake Exalted is He. This gathering is included among Allah’s commands/law. All these (blessings) is granted by Allah especially for those among His servants whom He Love. Similarly as Allah had given us all the blessings Guidance is given to us for us to be thankful for it until we achieve perfection and increase in blessings. and we renew our pact/oath bearing witness that there is no God but Allah and Muhammad s.a.w. is the Messenger of Allah. We plead to Allah so that He will grant unto us the station of the two testimonies. All gifts and stations that are granted by him are based upon them i.e.testimony of faith (ash hadu-anlaailaha illa-Allah wa ashahadu anna Muhammadar Rasulullah) the first step to Realize the testimony is to get rid of the worship and obedience to the passions of the lower self within us. We then correct the anger in our hearts according to the Shari’ah/Law (i.e. we get angry only for the Sake of Allah nothing else)


We begin with sending prayers and blessings to the Presence of the Prophet Muhammad s.a.w. who if it wasn’t for him we won’t be gathered here in this place. “Ya Allah send your peace and blessings upon the Prophet Muhammad s.a.w. who has given us guidance and example”. And peace and blessings be upon those of his family s.a.w. whom Allah has made the Qur’an and them in harmony (hadith) until the day of judgement. And peace and blessings upon his companions among the muhajirin and ansar whom Allah has made them people whom He (Allah) is well-pleased with together with those who love them (muhajiriin and ansar) and He hates those who hates them. And peace and blessings be upon all His servants who follow upon their footsteps until the Day of Rising. And we seek peace and blessings for ourselves, our parents, families, teachers and all muslims.

Amma ba’adu, the subject matter for this gathering touches upon an issue that our Prophet s.a.w. was much concerned with. The subject that is the future of our children. The prophet s.a.w. strongly emphasizes upon us to teach and train our children both boys and girls the way to live. Our children include among his ummah/community whom he shall waiting for by the spring al-kawthar. The messnger of Allah reminded us to give attention to our children from the day of the solemnization of our marriage. In a hadith, he indicated, ‘…get married and have many children for I shall take pride in the size of my community on the Day of Rising’. Not everyone will have the chance to drink from his spring of the Prophet save those who passed away from this world upon his faith and love. The best way to die in faith and love is to put to practice the way that the Prophet s.a.w. had taught us.

Verily Allah has by His wisdom created in this world elements that influences both us and our children. We have to therefore give serious attention to these influences. Our children can be easily influenced by whatever they are exposed to in their houses and corruption can also occur outside. The first and fundamental avenue of influence are their sight and hearing. This was indicated by our Prophet Muhammad s.a.w. when he made it a sunna for us to recite the call for prayer in the right ear and the iqaamah in the left ear of the newborn. We are well aware that a newborn cannot understand the words nor could the newborn stand for prayer. However here is a lesson/allusion for us that whatever was heard although not understood at that point of time will bear an effect upon the baby later in its life.

How many of our children whom after hearing just a single word, became disobedient to his/her parents? How many of our youths whom upon hearing only a single word, abandoned their canonical prayers? And how many whom after hearing only a single word had their faith shaken upon its roots? And how many after hearing just a single word lost in their hearts the magnification/deep reverence for companions of the Prophet, his family/ahlil beit, men of piety and gained instead the reverence for people whom are among the potential fuel for hellfire? How many of our youths became delinquents and a menace to society just from hearing a single word?. How many have there been people whose thoughts were influenced just by a single vision and how many people changed in character as a result of a single glimpse? How many have there been whom a single glimpse moved them to perform prohibited acts?

Verily our Lord declared “Verily, the hearing sight shall be questioned on the day of Rising.” The pious men of the past, whom even when they were in the Holy city of Mecca would accompany their children if they were going to the Sacred Mosque just to ensure they do not hear nor see that which Allah dislike along the way. Among them were Habib Muhammad bin Husayn al-Habshi of Mecca whom was a contemporary of the local Habib Nuh al-Habshi. The vices of that age was little as compared to now but they were much more strict and meticulous in the attention they gave to their children. In this age when vices are rife the attention given to our children is just too little.

I am amazed, O beloved assembly that in this age many parents do not pay sufficient attention on the development of their children and on that which they hear and see while there are others outside whom carefully plan the items that which they want to feed the ears and eyes of our children.

To be continued InsyaAllah…
I apologise if there are any mistakes in this simplified translation and transcript. May we gain benefit from Habib ‘Umar’s knowledge, amin.